Sharing a meal with a loved one who has dementia can be deeply meaningful—but it can also come with challenges. Changes in appetite, focus, or swallowing may make mealtimes feel stressful. With the right approach, though, dining can still be a calm and comforting experience.
Dr. Macie Smith, social gerontologist, encourages caregivers to focus on simplicity, familiarity, and patience to support more enjoyable meals.
Simple Ways to Make Mealtimes Easier
Keep food presentation simple.
Too many foods on one plate can feel overwhelming. Try serving one item at a time or use a sectioned plate. Avoid patterned dishes, which can cause confusion or anxiety.
Use color contrast.
Plates and utensils that contrast with food make it easier to see what’s on the plate. For example, green beans on a white plate or mashed potatoes on a red plate can help with recognition and decision-making.
Offer familiar foods.
Meals your loved one enjoyed in the past can spark positive memories and encourage eating. Avoid stringy or sticky foods, which may be harder to swallow.
If you notice any of the following during meals, a swallow assessment may be helpful:
Choking
Coughing
Swallowing very slowly
Holding food in the mouth
Refusing to eat
Create a calm, comfortable space.
Good lighting, a comfortable temperature, and fewer distractions can make a big difference during meals.
Make it social.
Eating together matters. Sharing a meal can provide comfort, connection, and gentle encouragement, since dining is a social experience.
There is no “perfect” way to handle mealtimes. Every small step you take helps support your loved one’s dignity and independence. Patience, flexibility, and compassion go a long way.
For more guidance and encouragement, consider staying connected with Dr. Macie Smith and her caregiver community.
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